Be Who You Needed

Do you ever feel unnoticed, like you don’t matter? Do you wonder how many people would notice if you just . . . stopped showing up?

Pretty dramatic questions for a Monday.

A number of years ago, I had been attending a ladies Bible Study. I attended EVERY Thursday faithfully, & didn’t miss.

One Thursday, I couldn’t make it. And over the next few days, I got really hurt <ahem — bitter> that out of our group of 20+ women, not one had reached out to check in on me, to let me know they missed me, and to be sure I was okay. (Cue Pity Party)

And 𝙏𝙃𝙀𝙉.

I was struck by the proverbial mirror. Oh. Had *I* ever reached out when I noticed someone hadn’t made a meeting, or a gathering? Nope. Sure didn’t. Did it mean I didn’t care or didn’t notice? Not at all. It just didn’t occur to me, I guess. Complacency. Busy-ness. Being too ME-focussed.

<𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘩>

So, as small a gesture as it may be, I started to reach out when I noticed people in my circle were missing from a gathering. Because it’s nice to know you’re missed, and that your presence matters to people.

Pause as I patted myself on the back.

Fast forward to a few years back, and being frustrated with growing my business. “𝘐 𝘸𝘪𝘴𝘩 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘵𝘴!” I thought to myself in frustration.

Ope. There it is again — That Mirror of conviction. Am 𝙄 doing that for others?

→ 𝐋𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝.

That’s when I started my “𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧” series (pre-pandemic). That came to a halt around July of 2019, for no apparent reason. (woops)

It’s time to start it up again, and I’m stating that here for accountability. (If you’re curious about those female entrepreneurs, search #womensupportingwomen on my page)