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Car Conversations with David
Car Conversations with David [After David shared about the Bible story at school] Me: "๐˜š๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜‘๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜š๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ." David: "๐˜‘๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ด ๐™ž๐™จ๐™ฃ'๐™ฉ ๐˜ข ๐˜š๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ, ๐˜”๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ" Me (feeling fairly spuritual): "๐˜ž๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ, ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ'๐˜ต ๐˜š๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ?" David (slightly exasperated):...
What Are You Thinking?
What Are You Thinking?? Did you know the average human has 12,000 - 60,000 thoughts each day, and of those thoughts, 80% are negative and 95% are repetitive? Put simply, weโ€™re allowing crappy mantras to march through our brains unchecked every day. It seems itโ€™s...
“You’re Always Late”
โ€œ๐˜๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐€๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐‹๐š๐ญ๐žโ€ Yes. Iโ€™m aware. My preferred diagnosis is ๐๐ฎ๐ง๐œ๐ญ๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐‚๐ก๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ง๐ ๐ž๐.ย  Because I am. I know it. You know it, everyone knows it. And some choose to comment on it, usually in jest. (Sometimes not.) What if we were as comfortable pointing out others...
Do You Buffer?
Buffering is a tricky way our brain distracts us with โ€œbusy workโ€ or other activity โ€“ especially when it serves a purpose and is necessary โ€“ when weโ€™re supposed to be working on an important task. When weโ€™re buffering, weโ€™re hiding. ย  Buffering is ๐๐ซ๐จ๐๐ฎ๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž...
Bible Study
Recommended Bible Study -- not just for Advent! It's tough to find a truly GOOD Bible Study, either for individual or group study.   I was pretty blown away by this one.   I will start with 2 aspects I disagree with: 1.) It for sure is relevant year round,...
There Are No Bad Prayers
There are no Bad Prayers ๐“๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ ๐๐š๐ ๐๐ซ๐š๐ฒ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ As Iโ€™ve stepped back into ministry leadership, Iโ€™ve noticed there's a huge resistance to praying out loud for a group. . Nothing brings you back to those memories of hoping the teacher doesnโ€™t call on you quicker than...
What’s Holding You Together?
Today, I learned about ๐—Ÿ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป -- the Jesus protein. (Not scientifically, but read on to decide for yourself if it deserves that title)   If you're a Molecular Biologist, you're already familiar with Laminin. For the rest of us, Laminins are a family of proteins...
Where There is Hope . . . Miracles Happen
Where there is Hope, there is Faith. Where there is Faith, Miracles Happen. For us, this is the face of Hope.   After losing Jacob, we could have attempted to guard our hearts. Protect our kids' hearts. Instead, we trusted God's Promises. We dared to hope, and...
What Others Think of Me is None of My Business
๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐›๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ. โ†‘ This was one of the unusual philosophies my mom shared, that really stuck. I was in high school when she told me the story of how she overheard 2 coworkers talking about her in the bathroom (unaware she was in...
Dear Church
๐““๐“ฎ๐“ช๐“ป ๐“’๐“ฑ๐“พ๐“ป๐“ฌ๐“ฑ, You are a body of Believers, of flawed humans who serve the same God. You are NOT a building. Not a specific location with a specific pastor. Your identity is in Christ, not in a Church Building.   Dear Church People: no need to get offended when...

There Are No Bad Prayers

There are no Bad Prayers ๐“๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ ๐๐š๐ ๐๐ซ๐š๐ฒ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ As Iโ€™ve stepped back into ministry leadership, Iโ€™ve noticed there's a huge resistance to praying out loud for a group. . Nothing brings you back to those memories of hoping the teacher doesnโ€™t call on you quicker than...

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What Others Think of Me is None of My Business

๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐›๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ. โ†‘ This was one of the unusual philosophies my mom shared, that really stuck. I was in high school when she told me the story of how she overheard 2 coworkers talking about her in the bathroom (unaware she was in...

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David Misses Jacob Too
Yesterday was Sibling Loss Awareness Day. Child Loss is the Ultimate Loss, and parentsโ€™ grief (understandably) receives the most attention and sympathy. David (almost 5!) has been increasingly more interested in Heaven -- and Jacob -- lately. Last week, as he climbed...
Firemen & Nurses
Firemen & Nurses โ€ข ~ ๐…๐ˆ๐‘๐„๐Œ๐„๐ & ๐๐”๐‘๐’๐„๐’ ~ โ€ข A few years ago, I heard the idea that in times of personal crisis or trauma, both (figurative) Firemen & Nurses will show up. That was certainly true for us when Jacob died. The Firemen are those people who run...
Where There is Hope . . . Miracles Happen
Where there is Hope, there is Faith. Where there is Faith, Miracles Happen. For us, this is the face of Hope.   After losing Jacob, we could have attempted to guard our hearts. Protect our kids' hearts. Instead, we trusted God's Promises. We dared to hope, and...

Grocery Shopping Has Changed

๐†๐ซ๐จ๐œ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ Thankfully, I had already discovered the magic of grocery pickup ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ the Pandemic began. Now, if I have to actually walk in and choose my own groceries (like a peasant!), Iโ€™m mildly annoyed. . But Iโ€™ve noticed a lingering heart shift...

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Horses Laying Down

๐‡๐จ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐š๐ฒ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐๐จ๐ฐ๐ง Iโ€™ll admit, I didnโ€™t know much about horses when we were gifted our 2 beautiful (and stubborn) horses. So, when I saw one of them laying down one day, I became alarmed. "๐˜๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ญ? ๐˜ˆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ๐˜ข๐˜บ? ๐˜ˆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ต? ๐˜‹๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ญ๐˜บ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ฏ???"...

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Car Conversations with David

Car Conversations with David [After David shared about the Bible story at school] Me: "๐˜š๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜‘๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜š๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ." David: "๐˜‘๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ด ๐™ž๐™จ๐™ฃ'๐™ฉ ๐˜ข ๐˜š๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ, ๐˜”๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ" Me (feeling fairly spuritual): "๐˜ž๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ, ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ'๐˜ต ๐˜š๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ?" David (slightly exasperated):...

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Grocery Shopping Has Changed

๐†๐ซ๐จ๐œ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ Thankfully, I had already discovered the magic of grocery pickup ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ the Pandemic began. Now, if I have to actually walk in and choose my own groceries (like a peasant!), Iโ€™m mildly annoyed. . But Iโ€™ve noticed a lingering heart shift...

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Horses Laying Down

๐‡๐จ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐š๐ฒ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐๐จ๐ฐ๐ง Iโ€™ll admit, I didnโ€™t know much about horses when we were gifted our 2 beautiful (and stubborn) horses. So, when I saw one of them laying down one day, I became alarmed. "๐˜๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ญ? ๐˜ˆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ๐˜ข๐˜บ? ๐˜ˆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ต? ๐˜‹๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ญ๐˜บ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ฏ???"...

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What Are You Thinking?

What Are You Thinking?

What Are You Thinking?? Did you know the average human has 12,000 - 60,000 thoughts each day, and of those thoughts, 80% are negative and 95% are repetitive? Put simply, weโ€™re allowing crappy mantras to march through our brains unchecked every day. It seems itโ€™s...

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“You’re Always Late”

โ€œ๐˜๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐€๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐‹๐š๐ญ๐žโ€ Yes. Iโ€™m aware. My preferred diagnosis is ๐๐ฎ๐ง๐œ๐ญ๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐‚๐ก๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ง๐ ๐ž๐.ย  Because I am. I know it. You know it, everyone knows it. And some choose to comment on it, usually in jest. (Sometimes not.) What if we were as comfortable pointing out others...

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We Don’t Talk About That

I recently had a friend (and Oil Customer) reach out to me. โ€œ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฃ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ณ?โ€ Believe me, I GET IT. My hair has thinned significantly over the past 18 months. (Makes me wonder if I actually DID get the โ€˜Rona back...

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Do You Buffer?

Buffering is a tricky way our brain distracts us with โ€œbusy workโ€ or other activity โ€“ especially when it serves a purpose and is necessary โ€“ when weโ€™re supposed to be working on an important task. When weโ€™re buffering, weโ€™re hiding. ย  Buffering is ๐๐ซ๐จ๐๐ฎ๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž...

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“You’re Doing a Good Job”

People, we donโ€™t say this enough. I dashed into the grocery store the other day. Wasnโ€™t planning to โ€“ sweats, flaccid mom bun, absolutely ZERO makeup. ย  And had the most delightful conversation in the produce section with a friend who sees my older children regularly....

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You Don’t Get What You Don’t Ask For

Each year, I buy roses for Santa to leave in Jacobโ€™s stocking. (The decision to continue hanging his stocking is another story, but we havenโ€™t stopped, & are at peace with that decision.) I typically go to our local grocery store, as they do a nice job during...

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Be Who You Needed

Do you ever feel unnoticed, like you donโ€™t matter? Do you wonder how many people would notice if you just . . . stopped showing up?   Pretty dramatic questions for a Monday.   A number of years ago, I had been attending a ladies Bible Study. I attended EVERY...

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Bible Study

Recommended Bible Study -- not just for Advent! It's tough to find a truly GOOD Bible Study, either for individual or group study.   I was pretty blown away by this one.   I will start with 2 aspects I disagree with: 1.) It for sure is relevant year round,...

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What’s Your B- Effort?

As a recovering perfectionist, former teacher, and Enneagram 3, doing less-than-perfect work doesnโ€™t naturally sit well with me. I suppose I have the โ€œ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜โ€™๐˜ฎ ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ, ๐˜โ€™๐˜ฎ ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ, ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ.โ€ attitude. And . . . I HATE being โ€œbadโ€ at...

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There Are No Bad Prayers

There are no Bad Prayers ๐“๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ ๐๐š๐ ๐๐ซ๐š๐ฒ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ As Iโ€™ve stepped back into ministry leadership, Iโ€™ve noticed there's a huge resistance to praying out loud for a group. . Nothing brings you back to those memories of hoping the teacher doesnโ€™t call on you quicker than...

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Trigger Warning — Santa

Trigger Warning -- Santa ๐“๐‘๐ˆ๐†๐†๐„๐‘ ๐–๐€๐‘๐๐ˆ๐๐† -- ๐’๐€๐๐“๐€ Forget debates on politics or vaccinations, if you ๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™ก๐™ก๐™ฎ want to rile up Moms, bring up the ๐’๐š๐ง๐ญ๐š ๐ƒ๐ž๐›๐š๐ญ๐ž. In the Season of Giving, nothing says โ€œA Savior is Bornโ€ like a mother threatening any Tween or Teenager with...

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Why are there so many of us?

Friends have thoughtfully reached out recently, asking if the recent local tragedy -- news of the child who died -- has hit me especially hard, given my own child loss. It is logical -- and thoughtful -- people would ask. But child loss comes in so many unique...

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What’s Holding You Together?

Today, I learned about ๐—Ÿ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป -- the Jesus protein. (Not scientifically, but read on to decide for yourself if it deserves that title)   If you're a Molecular Biologist, you're already familiar with Laminin. For the rest of us, Laminins are a family of proteins...

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Problems Unaddressed Always Compound

~ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ฎ๐ง๐š๐๐๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐ ~ I heard this โ†‘ statement in a Podcast, and it got me thinking. Off the top of my head, these areas come to mind. Choosing ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ to address our problems doesnโ€™t make them go away, it just makes them worse. How many times have we...

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We Always Think We Have More Time

๐–๐ž ๐š๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ž. If the Pandemic has taught us anything, itโ€™s the value of time and the value of the people we love the most. What really matters. Our family. Our health. Our freedoms. One of the most heartbreaking feelings you can feel once someone...

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Where There is Hope . . . Miracles Happen

Where there is Hope, there is Faith. Where there is Faith, Miracles Happen. For us, this is the face of Hope.   After losing Jacob, we could have attempted to guard our hearts. Protect our kids' hearts. Instead, we trusted God's Promises. We dared to hope, and...

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Trust Your Gut

๐“๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐†๐ฎ๐ญ โ€œ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฃ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฒ๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต . . .โ€   After anxiety, the questions & testimonies I hear the most are about stomach issues. This is an area in which many suffer in silence. Friends, I canโ€™t say this enough: pay attention to what your...

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What Others Think of Me is None of My Business

๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐›๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ. โ†‘ This was one of the unusual philosophies my mom shared, that really stuck. I was in high school when she told me the story of how she overheard 2 coworkers talking about her in the bathroom (unaware she was in...

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Dear Church

๐““๐“ฎ๐“ช๐“ป ๐“’๐“ฑ๐“พ๐“ป๐“ฌ๐“ฑ, You are a body of Believers, of flawed humans who serve the same God. You are NOT a building. Not a specific location with a specific pastor. Your identity is in Christ, not in a Church Building.   Dear Church People: no need to get offended when...

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Firemen & Nurses

Firemen & Nurses โ€ข ~ ๐…๐ˆ๐‘๐„๐Œ๐„๐ & ๐๐”๐‘๐’๐„๐’ ~ โ€ข A few years ago, I heard the idea that in times of personal crisis or trauma, both (figurative) Firemen & Nurses will show up. That was certainly true for us when Jacob died. The Firemen are those people who run...

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For the Ladies

For the Ladies ~ ๐…๐Ž๐‘ ๐“๐‡๐„ ๐‹๐€๐ƒ๐ˆ๐„๐’ ~ (or those who love ladies) As a Teenager, I remember having terrible menstrual cramps. In my memory, they were pretty bad, but as far as I know, my Mom never sought out the advice of a doctor. Itโ€™s likely birth control would have been...

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Grocery Shopping Has Changed

๐†๐ซ๐จ๐œ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ Thankfully, I had already discovered the magic of grocery pickup ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ the Pandemic began. Now, if I have to actually walk in and choose my own groceries (like a peasant!), Iโ€™m mildly annoyed. . But Iโ€™ve noticed a lingering heart shift...

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Horses Laying Down

๐‡๐จ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐š๐ฒ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐๐จ๐ฐ๐ง Iโ€™ll admit, I didnโ€™t know much about horses when we were gifted our 2 beautiful (and stubborn) horses. So, when I saw one of them laying down one day, I became alarmed. "๐˜๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ญ? ๐˜ˆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ๐˜ข๐˜บ? ๐˜ˆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ต? ๐˜‹๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ญ๐˜บ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ฏ???"...

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What Are You Thinking?

What Are You Thinking?

What Are You Thinking?? Did you know the average human has 12,000 - 60,000 thoughts each day, and of those thoughts, 80% are negative and 95% are repetitive? Put simply, weโ€™re allowing crappy mantras to march through our brains unchecked every day. It seems itโ€™s...

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“You’re Always Late”

โ€œ๐˜๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐€๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐‹๐š๐ญ๐žโ€ Yes. Iโ€™m aware. My preferred diagnosis is ๐๐ฎ๐ง๐œ๐ญ๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐‚๐ก๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ง๐ ๐ž๐.ย  Because I am. I know it. You know it, everyone knows it. And some choose to comment on it, usually in jest. (Sometimes not.) What if we were as comfortable pointing out others...

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We Don’t Talk About That

I recently had a friend (and Oil Customer) reach out to me. โ€œ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฃ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ณ?โ€ Believe me, I GET IT. My hair has thinned significantly over the past 18 months. (Makes me wonder if I actually DID get the โ€˜Rona back...

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Do You Buffer?

Buffering is a tricky way our brain distracts us with โ€œbusy workโ€ or other activity โ€“ especially when it serves a purpose and is necessary โ€“ when weโ€™re supposed to be working on an important task. When weโ€™re buffering, weโ€™re hiding. ย  Buffering is ๐๐ซ๐จ๐๐ฎ๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž...

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“You’re Doing a Good Job”

People, we donโ€™t say this enough. I dashed into the grocery store the other day. Wasnโ€™t planning to โ€“ sweats, flaccid mom bun, absolutely ZERO makeup. ย  And had the most delightful conversation in the produce section with a friend who sees my older children regularly....

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You Don’t Get What You Don’t Ask For

Each year, I buy roses for Santa to leave in Jacobโ€™s stocking. (The decision to continue hanging his stocking is another story, but we havenโ€™t stopped, & are at peace with that decision.) I typically go to our local grocery store, as they do a nice job during...

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Be Who You Needed

Do you ever feel unnoticed, like you donโ€™t matter? Do you wonder how many people would notice if you just . . . stopped showing up?   Pretty dramatic questions for a Monday.   A number of years ago, I had been attending a ladies Bible Study. I attended EVERY...

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What’s Your B- Effort?

As a recovering perfectionist, former teacher, and Enneagram 3, doing less-than-perfect work doesnโ€™t naturally sit well with me. I suppose I have the โ€œ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜โ€™๐˜ฎ ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ, ๐˜โ€™๐˜ฎ ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ, ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ.โ€ attitude. And . . . I HATE being โ€œbadโ€ at...

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There Are No Bad Prayers

There are no Bad Prayers ๐“๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ ๐๐š๐ ๐๐ซ๐š๐ฒ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ As Iโ€™ve stepped back into ministry leadership, Iโ€™ve noticed there's a huge resistance to praying out loud for a group. . Nothing brings you back to those memories of hoping the teacher doesnโ€™t call on you quicker than...

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Why are there so many of us?

Friends have thoughtfully reached out recently, asking if the recent local tragedy -- news of the child who died -- has hit me especially hard, given my own child loss. It is logical -- and thoughtful -- people would ask. But child loss comes in so many unique...

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What’s Holding You Together?

Today, I learned about ๐—Ÿ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป -- the Jesus protein. (Not scientifically, but read on to decide for yourself if it deserves that title)   If you're a Molecular Biologist, you're already familiar with Laminin. For the rest of us, Laminins are a family of proteins...

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Problems Unaddressed Always Compound

~ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ฎ๐ง๐š๐๐๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐ ~ I heard this โ†‘ statement in a Podcast, and it got me thinking. Off the top of my head, these areas come to mind. Choosing ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ to address our problems doesnโ€™t make them go away, it just makes them worse. How many times have we...

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We Always Think We Have More Time

๐–๐ž ๐š๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ž. If the Pandemic has taught us anything, itโ€™s the value of time and the value of the people we love the most. What really matters. Our family. Our health. Our freedoms. One of the most heartbreaking feelings you can feel once someone...

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Where There is Hope . . . Miracles Happen

Where there is Hope, there is Faith. Where there is Faith, Miracles Happen. For us, this is the face of Hope.   After losing Jacob, we could have attempted to guard our hearts. Protect our kids' hearts. Instead, we trusted God's Promises. We dared to hope, and...

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Trust Your Gut

๐“๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐†๐ฎ๐ญ โ€œ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฃ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฒ๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต . . .โ€   After anxiety, the questions & testimonies I hear the most are about stomach issues. This is an area in which many suffer in silence. Friends, I canโ€™t say this enough: pay attention to what your...

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What Others Think of Me is None of My Business

๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐›๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ. โ†‘ This was one of the unusual philosophies my mom shared, that really stuck. I was in high school when she told me the story of how she overheard 2 coworkers talking about her in the bathroom (unaware she was in...

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Firemen & Nurses

Firemen & Nurses โ€ข ~ ๐…๐ˆ๐‘๐„๐Œ๐„๐ & ๐๐”๐‘๐’๐„๐’ ~ โ€ข A few years ago, I heard the idea that in times of personal crisis or trauma, both (figurative) Firemen & Nurses will show up. That was certainly true for us when Jacob died. The Firemen are those people who run...

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For the Ladies

For the Ladies ~ ๐…๐Ž๐‘ ๐“๐‡๐„ ๐‹๐€๐ƒ๐ˆ๐„๐’ ~ (or those who love ladies) As a Teenager, I remember having terrible menstrual cramps. In my memory, they were pretty bad, but as far as I know, my Mom never sought out the advice of a doctor. Itโ€™s likely birth control would have been...

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Sippy Cup Graduation

๐’๐ข๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ฒ ๐‚๐ฎ๐ฉ ๐†๐ซ๐š๐๐ฎ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง The other day, David informed me he didnโ€™t need his sippy cups any more, and we could use the drawer we stored them in for something else. Since Jacob passed when he was just 2ยฝ , itโ€™s been 8 years since weโ€™ve had a child age out of Sippy Cups....

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Civil Disobedience

Sometimes I (half) jokingly refer to myself as a Rule Breaker. I blame my Mother. ย While driving me to college my Freshman year (while I was still 17, mind you), she informed me that most Rules are really more strong suggestions. Note: she waited until I LEFT HOME to...

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Who’s Holding Your Arms Up?

The other night, I was on a Zoom call with other business leaders in my company. We ended our meeting in prayer (This definitely never happened when I was Teaching in schools). During the prayer, one leader covered another specifically, saying โ€œLord, we will hold her...

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